41-year-old Amin Abdullah doused himself in petrol and set himself alight outside the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge's London home after being sacked from the hospital job “he lived for” , his partner said.
The award-winning nurse, who grew up in a Malaysian orphanage, was fired from his nursing job at Charing Cross Hospital for signing a petition in support of a colleague.
The woman who complained about the nurse's colleague admitted she was a 'complainer' in a letter to his long-term partner, Terry Skitmore.
On Friday, February 19, she told Mr Skitmore she was "devastated" over Amin's death and admitted she 'complains a lot'.
In an email exchange with Mr Abdullah's partner, Hilary said: "You have no idea how this news has devastated me."
"I am, believe me, so aware that the devastation I feel is nothing in comparison to how you must be feeling," she continued.
"Yes I do complain a fair bit about things that go on in the NHS , but I feel rightly so."
Amin was sacked from his 'dream job' from gross misconduct in December after signing a petition in support of a colleague who Hilary complained about.
He won The Hannah Evans Award for Excellence when he graduated with a nursing degree from Buckinghamshire New University in Uxbridge.
In a letter he wrote to other staff Amin said Hilary was a regular complainer, but after an investigation hospital management claimed this was inaccurate because she had never made a formal complaint.
Tragedy struck on February 9, when Amin left the hospital, he was being treated for depression and suicidal thoughts for, alone.
Less than four hours later his charred body was found by police outside the palace at around 3am.
Amin was 'kind and gentle'
After this, his partner Terry, 62, contacted Hilary saying: "Amin Abdullah, whom you referred to as 'this little man' and 'dictator' was my partner of 12 wonderful years.
"He made me the happiest man in the world. Contrary to your description, he was kind and and gentle."
In her reply Hilary wrote: "I am so sorry for your loss, but feel you must get what I believe to be the truth.
"Yes, I made the complaints and to date am still of the same opinion, now maybe what you don't know, is that Amin, as far as I was concerned, only needed to be spoken to and maybe do a man-management course."