Wedding guest lists are fraught with politics.

With both of us children of divorce, there's enough issues to think about within the family, especially when it comes to the table plan. I'm dreading that.

Speaking of which, how do you decide who to seat on the top table? Obviously the bride and groom, and my mum has to be on there. His mum ought to be on there. But then it gets complicated...dads, step dads, step mums...third cousins twice removed. Perhaps names out of a hat will be the best idea. I'll work it all out later.

We're still at the stage of choosing who to invite. We have our day guests sorted, and there'll be about 80 people for the service, and whose hungry mouths we will have to feed. They've all had their save the date cards, so it's all sorted.

But then we have to think about the evening...those people we like but couldn't squeeze in during the day, and those we feel obliged to invite.

Hopefully none of those we were obliged to invite will work out that they're invited for that reason.

My former boss invited a select few people from work - those he had known for a long time, while another colleague invited no one from the office. And I can't work out if I should be inviting colleagues.

Some of them are friends, so should be there, but there are others that I don't have a lot to do with outside of work. Should they be invited, just because we work together? Then there's friends who have drifted away from us...should they be invited because we knew them for 15 years or so but don't see them so much anymore?

Some big decisions to be made. Maybe names out of a hat is the best idea all round.